Mothers day...

Mothers at the edge of an identity crisis?

If u have kids u will know what i am talking about. If not, then u dont know such a crisis.
Unless u are the wife of Steven Spielberg or Tony Blair.
Those women are just "the wife of Mr. Spielberg" or "the wife of Mr. Blair".

Maybe i am way off but my problem is a similar one.
Nobody ever calls me Mrs. Prime Minister ( has a nice ring to it though),
i am " Julias Mom".

A lot of things are kept from you when u expecting your first child!
How to treat highly pubertating girls or lil tv or pc junkies.

And ... that u will lose your identity when kindergarden begins.
From then on u are just " the mother of ...".
I used to be Angie or Mrs C.Gomez.
Long gone.

A phonecall in kindergarden times was like this:
Ring ring...
Me: Hello
A woman: Hello, this is Matts mom, are u Julias mom?
Me: yeah
Matts mom: Matt wants to know if he can play with Julia tomorrow after kindergarden. Is that
ok?
Me (trying my best to figure out who that woman might be!): Yeah, sure.
Matts mom: Then u will pick Matt up with Julia tomorrow?
I dont even know what the boy looks like or his mom!!!!
Me: Yeah, sure. No problem!
- i promise, Julia will know what he looks like!

The next day i am pushed into being Julias personal assistant.
She wants to play with Laura.
HA ! Now i wannna know!!
"Hello, this is Angie C.Gomez" i say proudly on the phone.
"Who?" says a confused woman.
"Am i talking to Mrs Meir?" i ask back, because I WONT GIVE UP!
"Hmmmm" she says. Probably she hasnt been called like that in years.
Silence... i get weak.
"Are u Lauras mom?".
"Yeah!" she yells with relief!!
Now she rememberd who she was.
She sounded very happy now.
"And you?" i hear, " u are the mother of..?"
GRRRRR. I wont make it easy for her now!
" I am Angie C.Gomez!"
"Ahhh" she yells out, "so u are Tinas mom!"
I get sour.
"no, i am Julias mom".
"Why didnt u say that from the beginning?" is her answer.

And 2 women without names, without identities made a play date for their kids.

In other cultures its different, kids are named after their fathers.
So it would be " Julia the daughter of Byron".
Not very motherfriendly either.
They´ll never say: " Hey, there goes Julia, the daughter of Angie!"
And that isnt too bad, then u dont give your kids a name for nothing.
Even i was given a name years back, and my name is ignored for so many years now.

But its ok.
It´s natural. We are somebodys mother.
That´s the meaning of life! Being a MOM.
Maybe one day i will be the grandmother of someone.
Maybe i am overdoing it a bit.

But i GREET ALL THE MOTHERS AND FATHERS of this world!!
More power to ya!!

Happy mothers day !!!